Throughout life, I have often been told that I am too much. Too much love. Too much emotion. Too much passion. Too geeky. You name it, I have been called it. Too much is something especially as of late, that has really been a struggle for me. Having friends, loved ones, and even my co-workers tell me that I am too much to handle. This applies to my emotions, and to things that I am extremely passionate about.
To give some background, I am a Cancer. (Cancers are very emotional and sensitive, and have the capacity to care deeply.) I was born in July and am very protective when it comes to my emotions and the emotions of others. As such, I can come across as a roller coaster of emotion, as I was just told 3 days ago. I can see it. I see the roller coaster. I can see what he meant. I can see that I am extreme. But why is that such a bad thing? All of my heroes were extreme. They wouldn’t get to where they are if it weren’t for being extreme.
Captain America is a perfect example of this. Cap really believes in doing the right thing, and in order to do the right thing, he will speak up and say when someone is not doing something right. He can be too much. He can be too abrasive, too emotional. Even as a superhero, he is a man who has feelings and is sticking up for what is right and what is going to make sure that people don’t get hurt. Physically and emotionally.
Elsa is another example. Queen Elsa of Arendelle is too much. In her kingdom, she is too scary. She is too emotional. She is too isolated. However, behind all the curtains and all the walls she has created, she is a loving, strong person. Even when the outside thought she was being too much, she was really only protecting herself from the judgment of others. Granted, it is a different approach of being too much, but it makes sense. Sometimes, I feel I put up walls of being too abrasive or too aggressive because I do not want people to see what is behind that wall.
And finally, Rick from Rick and Morty is one of my favorite examples. Rick comes across in every episode as being too smart. Too drunk. Too condescending. Too uncaring. When in reality, the reason he is truly special, is because of every single one of those things. He is each of those things: smart, drunk, and condescending. And the best part about it? He knows it! He believes it! That is what makes me fall in love with Rick. It doesn’t matter if he is too much, because, at the end of every episode, he either saves the day or creates another scenario where we get to go on another adventure with him and his grandson.
I hope if you are feeling like you are too much in your life, that you are truly valuable! You are exactly what this world needs: superheroes like you that can feel more, that can be too much! The world would not be a fun and exciting place if we didn’t feel enough or explore enough of what we love. The goal I’m setting for myself is if I feel that hearing or reading comments about me being too much comes to light, I am going to say Wubba Lubba Dub Dub out loud and proud! Because let’s face it, Let’s Get Riggity Riggity Wrecked Son!!